Hey Everyone!
First, I would like to thank Eric Birdline for submitting this question. I want this to be a forum for people to ask questions and learn from one another's experience, so thank you Eric for starting it off.
He asked the question: Can Black Gay Males be committed and NOT live together?
My answer is ABSOLUTELY. I truly believe that two black gay males can be committed to each other while not living together. What I think has to happen in order for this to work is both guys have to be COMMITTED to the relationship and to each other. There has to be trust and understanding that both people are going to be open and honest with each other and honor their relationship. If the trust and commitment between and to each other is not present then the relationship is doom to failure. I mean how are you going to trust someone to be faithful if your not there, if you can't trust them to begin with.
A relationship between two men doesn't have to involve that you guys are around each other or communicating with each other 24/7. There has to be that trust between each other that, it is you and him, and not you and him, and him and him.
So to my black gay brothers out there, if you want to be in relationship and have your space at the same time, you can have both, just make sure you are bringing trust and commitment to the table.
Let me know your thoughts about this topic, by commenting, and also feel free to send your comments.
Yours always, standing in my truth.
BGM
1 comments:
I agree, absolutly, 2 black gay committed men can live apart if they choose too. The question I now have is, how long? A young, numerically speaking, man can and should be working on his own idenity and individual goals to achieve. Now when a man has gotten older, and experienced a few things, then cohibitating is an option for growth and security. Trust should always be #1, but while we are working on that, stay apart, too much too soon can be dangerous.
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